Challenging the Stigma of Male Victimization: A Call for Change

When your blood wins over their sword……

You don’t heal shame, you win over it.

“Shame is a disorder of the self, it resides on the level of ‘I am’ not on the level of ‘I did, said, or thought.’ It is experiencing the self as defective, worthless and trash.”

Shame is a crushing burden. In the context of trauma, shame says “I was weak, stupid, and helpless.” it is called inflicted shame, from those who are shameless.

A flee response to shame will use anything to numb the pain of shame or counteract it by weighing the balance in favor of what we deem to be “the good.” In doing so, we hurt the self: with death, drugs, food, sex, overwork, terrible pressure, and relentless judgment.

Trauma silences, isolates, and renders powerless. helping ourselves to find a way to both speak and bear the unbearable. We get rid of shame by “blinding,” by silencing, whoever sees us. We erase the one shamed or destroy with words from the one who brought us shame; we avoid and abandon those who remind us of things we cannot bear to face.

Back to the point:

Today, let’s talk about abused men.

Abused men have twelve times the normal suicide rate and go on to have higher rates of mental…