Decoding Narcissistic Language: What ‘I Appreciate You’ Really Means

When a narcissist says that they appreciate you that is a translation that you’re their perfect target. A narcissist behaves in a way governed by their disorder, and it is very important to know how to decode what they’re saying to you. Narcissists are very skilled at communicating confidence and influencing others especially those closest to them. Their words are often used as tools of manipulation or weapons. Their language often disguises their true intent.

Narcissists have a bottomless hunger for attention, validation and control. Whatever you do for them will never be enough due to their unstainable appetite for what they want and need. The statement of “appreciating you” is decoded as the following below:

• I appreciate that you will allow me to use, abuse, mislead, and manipulate you.
• I appreciate that I will be able to control you, and you will be my puppet.
• I appreciate that you have no boundaries which will make it easier for me to demean you and disrespect you every opportunity I get.
• I appreciate that you will be my toy, object, and emotional punching bag to make me feel good about myself.
• I appreciate that you will allow me to destroy your self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth.