How can I stick to my beliefs without being influenced by what others think?

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You need to practice self-love.

Many times, the main reason some people believe they need to get other people’s approval or validation is because they grew up without the unconditional love from their parents that had to provide them with the safe space where they could be able to freely and authentically express themselves.

Without that safety net, they grew up believing they were not enough and somebody else had to validate what they did before they even had the chance to express it to the world.

So that unresolved trauma, very linked to our self-love, ends up making them believe that other people’s opinion is the right one and that theirs is not valid and needs to be hidden.

You’re talking about your beliefs, but remember that they are mostly acquired and conditioned. Most of them are not even yours, they are your parents’, family’s and society’s beliefs which you made yours in a time where you were on survival mode and needed something to hold on to.

Now, you’ve grown up, you don’t need to be on fight or flight mode anymore, you can express yourself now freely, but your conditioning is preventing you from doing that.