How Narcissists Blame Others to Avoid Responsibility

Calling you a narcissist.

If they cannot control others in any other way, they will turn to playing games and playing the victim.

Telling sad stories of why they behave the way they do as a way to make their behavior excusable.

They will abuse you, and trick themselves into believing that you abused them.

Having an exaggerated sense of superiority may leave them unable to see the situation in a way that doesn’t fit their distorted view.

They might react with anger and feel the need to blame you or others for “messing things up or ruining their life.” This takes the accountability off of them making them the victim, and you the evil villain and aggressor.

Telling their friends and family that you’re crazy, unstable, and problematic.

Rather than acknowledging the part they’ve played in causing a problem, they point the finger at you or others, and ignore their own involvement.

If they feel they don’t get enough praise and attention, they might act like the victim by making statements like, “I can’t believe you act this way after all I’ve done for you!” “You really hurt me.” “I didn’t know you were that kind of person.”