How Narcissists Reframe Their Behavior to Gain Sympathy

Revealing the Tactics Behind the Mask

It might help to think of a narcissist as believing their goodness, or worthiness, or high quality as being the truth. Whatever makes them feel on top will become the truth.

So, when they go to therapy, and they learn about disorders, and about wounds, they will find a way to view, or express their need to cross boundaries and their past behavior in a most favorable way. They’ll express whatever they’ve done, or been through, in such a way that people may see them as deserving of forgiveness, or some variation of hero/victim.

Even when honest they manage to make that magical reframe. But, some may reframe poorly so it’s obvious they are very ill-intentioned or sick individuals. However many or most of them are intelligent or perceptive enough to make their reframe extremely believable. What happens when the narcissist is exceptionally good at a reframe is that you will feel like a better person for believing them.

They will manage to get people they have not harmed, nor degraded, etc to “FORGIVE THEM”!!! So people unaffected by the abuse will be drawn into forgiving the narcissist, and will probably harbor judgment against the narcissist’s victims who may not forgive the narcissist.