How to Cope When Leaving a Narcissist Isn’t an Option

While you are in a relationship with a narcissist, there is not much you can do to better your life. I know many people who will never leave the narcissist they are with.

Rather than insisting on “no contact,” as if it were the only game in town, I believe we should all accept this reality.

A person could not feel they can flee their secret abuser for a number of different reasons.

Maybe they cannot provide for themselves.

They could have a child with their abuser.

Maybe they are in love for the violent person.

They have maybe developed a trauma connection to their abuser.

Perhaps they fear what the narcissist would do should they try to leave.

As far as we are concerned, all we can do is help victims decide to leave and continue without touch; we cannot criticize the choices another person has taken in their lives.

One cannot force them to do it.

Still, there are a few easy things you can do to help yourself while you are still in the relationship.

Grey Rock is a method that I do not think is very well explained.

The phrase “grey rock” refers to a lack of reaction to the narcissist or an emotionlessness.

Your answer to them determines their supply; hence, if you do not reply to them, you are giving them none.

Still, there is danger linked with this.

If you do not provide them any resource, they will typically try to set off it…