How to Stop Obsessive Thinking About a Narcissist

Dealing with someone who is high or low on the spectrum of narcissism can be very traumatic for anyone. Rumination is a natural response to a problematic situation, or person. They are in your mind and in your psyche. Your thoughts, feelings, and emotions have been hijacked by your abuser. They had a profound effect on you in a major way. Rumination occurs when you have constant and repetitive thoughts about something or someone. This also includes a problem, situation, or a circumstance. We often ruminate when we think we’ve made a major mistake or when something traumatic has happened to us that we feel responsible for. Lingering in these thoughts may intensify feelings of depression, stress, and anxiety.

The process of continuously thinking about the same thoughts drives your brain to stay on repeat. Negative ruminating thoughts can creep in when you question your self-worth, and this is exactly what the narcissist or your abuser wants you to do. They have conditioned you to keep your focus on them, even after they discarded you, or if you have discarded them. Rumination is often an attempt to solve an unsolvable problem, to change the reality that you are not prepared to accept.

You keep replaying the good, bad, and ugly of your experience with the narcissist or your abuser. Then comes this frequency of overwhelming intrusive and…