How to Stop Reacting to Narcissists and Take Back Control

How to stop reacting:

You react only, because narcissists have a unique way of triggering their victims to respond. Your response feeds directly into the attention, validation, power, and control that they want and need. The trigger is the dangling of the carrot on a string specifically made for you to react. Which is why it’s important to learn to recognize what triggers you to react. When you react you are reinforcing the message that they have power and control. When you react you are reinforcing the message that they still have you where they want you, which is focused on them. If you recognize what they say or do to trigger you, and then more importantly notice how that makes you feel. Notice the immediate urge within you as to how you may want or feel the need to react. Once you’re aware of how you feel and why you feel the way you do; then you will know that you have the power to not give them the reaction that they’re looking for. Remember any kind of reaction they illicit in others is a twisted way in which they feel better about themselves. Learn the art of not opening the front door when there is a knock, figuratively speaking learn the art of ignoring. Cut off all contact with the narcissist, if you can. The more contact you have with them, the more confidence you’ll give them to keep you under their control by you reacting.