How Trauma Bonds Keep You Hooked on a Narcissist

Dealing with a narcissist is like dealing with a (sometimes dangerous) infant strapped into the high chair of narcissism. You have been made to feel like it's your job to figure out how to supply, entertain, and clean up after an immature person. An infantile person who enjoys refusing to take their food, screaming because they are hungry, making a mess without a care in the world, throwing their spoon on the floor, laughing gleefully when they watch you pick it up over and over, turning their bowl over then throwing it on the floor and enjoying their power over you to make you responsible for responding to their actions to try to get things back to some semblance of order. But their agenda was never to contribute to order, their agenda was to see how much they could control you and make you react.

Does the infant care how much effort you have been through? (empathy) NO. Do they want things in order? Making things go well so they can be content is not a motivation for them, controlling you is. If you become frustrated and yell NO, they scream and wail that you are being abusive just as if you had screamed at an infant in a highchair. And every time you make an independent move to walk away they scream even more. Every move you make to do anything besides continue playing the game of picking up after them and serving them is seen as a sign they are losing…