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Lessons Learned: The Upside of Encountering a Narcissist
Yes, it is true that getting involved with a narcissist can and will lead to misery. Yes, it is also true that there are upsides that are not usually mentioned.
The reasons why the upsides are not mentioned, because victims are so shell shocked, traumatized, and trauma bonded by the experience with the narcissistic individual that they never take the time to genuinely heal or recover. Some victims experience (PTSD) from prolonged engagement in psychological warfare and other traumatic events when dealing with an abuser. Shell shock can cause a state of being stunned, confused, dazed, and panic driven. Unfortunately, this keeps the victim in a state of manic misery.
Some choose to turn a blind eye by staying on the hamster wheel or stuck trying to figure out what the hell happened in the entire ordeal. Some victims spend a lifetime trying to understand the misery that came with the abuse, and unspeakable misery some victims experienced. Some become so obsessed with the misery or abuse that they never can see the upside, only the downside which keeps them emotionally stagnant — emotionally paralyzed. Then you have victims who choose to spend their lifetime trying to weaponize or seek revenge on the narcissist as opposed to learning from the experience and finding healthy ways to heal, recover, and move forward. We all can…
