Love Bombing and Idealization: The Borderline Dynamic Explained

Love bombing and idealization! Borderlines are notorious for thinking they don’t manipulate others. This is partly because they learned very toxic manipulative behaviors as children that they normalized called maladaptive traits. Borderlines honestly believe they are just extra loving, very honest, very genuine people who wear their feelings on their sleeve. What they simply can’t see or seem to understand is all their expressions of love are manipulative projections to get THEIR NEEDS MET! You could literally be a scum bag abusive narcissistic monster or a complete push over human doormat codependent and they would idealize/ love bomb each person IDENTICALLY. That’s because like little kids, they think you are suppose to idealize, praise, and love bomb someone you care about. I once had a lunch with a former military buddy of mine and his bpd fiancé. The borderline literally praised him 5 different ways over during the meal. She said “your the best chef ever, everything you make is perfect, I wish I could cook as wonderfully as you, I’m so lucky to have a husband that’s a chef, everything you do always turns out perfect.” I literally made eye contact with him during the 4 and 5th love bombing because it got so cringy and so over the top. He was red and embarrassed because she was acting like a 5 year old. We both knew she had no idea what was happening and we…