Narcissism and Entitlement: How They Feed on Your Pain

Prove it. A narcissist might say, “Prove that I provoked those emotions and you’re not just an actual weakling who can’t handle life and you need someone to blame.”

Then they will batter you with more words, but the message is clear. The message is, you are confused, therefore I’m clear. You are angry, therefore I’m calm. You are hurting, therefore I feel good. Narcissists live their lives in comparison to you. So if you are doing well, they must be doing poorly. Entitled and contrary to the wellbeing of others, narcissists feel if happiness exists, it belongs to them. If you have it, that must be the reason they feel a lack of it.

A narcissist cannot enjoy or “handle” life without someone to blame. This is because they require others to be down in order for them to be up. Responsibility doesn’t exist for them, instead they are burdened by extreme entitlement. Which dictates that everything they desire should be theirs, and if they lack anything, its because others are denying them. This is why I consider them all malignant, although not all of them are physically violent or as openly abusive.

It serves the narcissist to be seen as elevated above you and the emotion they provoked in you. This is how the entitled, externally living, contrary narcissist handles any inkling of bad feeling emotion. Project it onto another. Then beat down the other and the disassociated emotion. I guess it feels like winning to them.