Narcissists and the False Narrative of ‘Allowing’ Abuse

Because it’s not possible to allow yourself to be a victim. This is victim-blaming 101.

It takes the responsibility off of the perpetrator and suggests that the victim just isn’t “enough”. A million vulnerable weak elderly folk could wander around leaving their wallets out, and I wouldn’t rob them. If I rob them, then I’m a victimizer. Period.

Here’s an easy introduction to the narc world view.

If you got hurt, you weren’t enough. You essentially deserved it.

They think this way because they are self-important, and others are not important.

So, when they commit an offense, it couldn’t be their wrongdoing, they are important. It was the fault of the other. Also, if they see something good, they ought to have it, so if they take it from you, you just weren’t good enough to keep it.

They rationalize everything from the perspective that they are blameless, yet deserving of praise and every good thing.

When a person writes something like, “people, stop allowing and you’ll stop getting hurt,” they are expressing a very antisocial perspective. The sentiment is from either a narcissist, or another with an exploitative pathology, or is someone who has been duped into thinking in an irresponsible way. It is…