Narcissists and Their Defense Mechanisms: Blame, Twist, Deny

They turn everything around on you, because of their manipulation tactic. It is a defense mechanism used by manipulators to evade accountability for the abuse they inflict on others. It is a blame-shifting tactic used as gaslighting in the context of emotional abuse by twisting your words to make you the offender. All of their bullying, demeaning behavior, and cruelty are all parts of their defense mechanism. They will say or do anything to avoid feeling embarrassed, or being exposed for the evil that they know that they’re capable of. They do know what they’re doing when they shift the blame. Their main ultimatum is all about power, and control and by redirecting the blame, they believe they will remain in control.

The abuser’s tendency is to blame you, marginalize you, minimize what they did, and make you less likely to come forward and report what happened. For these reasons, it’s important to understand the psychological roots of victim-blaming. Some victim-blaming undoubtedly originates from arrogance, control, evilness, and a sense of superiority. It gives them a sense of self-satisfaction to blame you for their behavior. Narcissists lacks self-reflection; therefore, they do not take the time to think about, meditate on, evaluate, and give serious thought of their behaviors, thoughts, attitudes, and actions.