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Rising Above the Hurt: A Pathway to Self-Love and Compassion
Embracing Your Worthiness and Cultivating Self-Compassion
(Spoiler alert: I’m not going to give you tools to fulfill your need for vengeance, I’m going to try to make you see things from another perspective so that you can heal and move on without hatred)
“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations.
People don’t do anything to you, they just reveal what’s already inside of you with their words and actions.
So, for example if you are holding on to a belief that you’re not enough and not worthy of love, when somebody cheats on you, breaks up with you or abandons you in any way, your trauma of not being lovable becomes an open wound that person just stuck their finger into and it hurts as fuck.
But the problem is not that other person. They are just acting according to what they feel within the level of consciousness they’re in and usually and sadly that means they act from their own trauma, fears, insecurities and expectations.
The actual problem is that inside of you there’s unresolved issues caused by trauma that need to be…
