The Consequences of Discarding a Narcissist

Many to a few things can or will happen when you abandon or discard them first. Most victims who discard or abandon a narcissist first is quite aware that they’re not disposable. They know they will no longer be subjected to emotional pain or torture they know that they’re worthy and deserve better. They came to a point where enough was enough, and that they will no longer be emotionally, psychologically, or physically abused be an emotional terrorist.

If you planned your departure quietly and safely then expect stalking, harassment, and anger. If the abuser didn’t have other sources of narcissistic supply, they were already grooming by the time you left, chances are they will be left blindsided by your departure. When they realize that you’ve ‘one-upped’ on them or “beaten them” to the discard this will not sit right with them at all. Some narcissistic abusers are known to stalk their former victims for months, sometimes even years, after the relationship ends, especially if you discarded them first.

Despite the fact that you were obviously in a severe abusive position, they will not see it that way. Despite the mere fact that your mental state was being damaged by them, they will not see it that way. Despite the fact that the relationship was toxic and unhealthy, they will not see it that way. Narcissists and toxic abusers will perceive you leaving as abuse and abandonment, rather than a way for you to secure your safety and mental sanity.

By leaving the narcissist first you threaten their sense of ownership over you, and their excessive need to control and gain from you what they cannot find within themselves.