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The Dark Agenda Behind Narcissistic Lovebombing and Abuse
9 min readDec 22, 2024
- When you have no trouble with them, they will start trouble with you
- When you are mild towards them, they will push your buttons to bring out the aggression in you
- When you lose it and get aggressive towards them, they will pull out their victimization and guilt-trip you about being such a bully towards such a poor, defenceless creature, and you will regret the uncharacteristically confrontational and aggressive things they caused you to do, but unless you learn to always attribute it to their button pushing and crazymaking, you will never figure yourself out of their Daytona loop of being antagonized by them, ultimately losing it and snapping at them, then feeling guilty for it, then getting antagonized again later, losing it and snapping, feeling guilty again, etc. like a racing car going round and round the track, wearing out both tyres and bitumen, and your own adrenals
- So you cannot remain at peace and be peaceful towards them
- And you cannot be mild towards them
- And they will do everything to make you snap at them, and now they caused you to feel guilty for being such an ogre
- And then when you have trouble with them (rebukes, fights, sorting out things), they will do some version of avoidance, disengagement…
