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The Insidious Trauma Bond: Why Empaths Fall for Narcissists (and How to Break Free)
The possibility of developing a trauma link with a narcissist is a consequence of untreated childhood trauma injuries. The personalities and experiences of the narcissist and the empath are quite similar due to their upbringing. The weakest link in the chain, the narcissist, developed narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as a self-defense mechanism. Because you are more resilient, you are also attention-seeking, have a personality that is addictive, are people-pleasing, and needy, among other characteristics. The distinction lies, of course, in the fact that you are able to experience genuine affection for other individuals while also managing the unpleasant emotions of shame and guilt in a typical manner. You are able to develop as a person during the course of your lifetime. When you connect with individuals that you respect and love, you are attentive to the feedback that you get about those interactions. As a human, you develop in a natural way. In addition, you get knowledge from the triumphs and failures of other individuals. It gives you a more comprehensive perspective, one in which the world, and not just oneself, is intriguing. This is not the case for the individual who suffers from NPD.
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