The Narcissist’s Victim Complex: A Tool for Manipulation

The Psychology Behind the Narcissist’s Victim Complex

Maybe it would be helpful to think of NPD as determining not what someone will do, but how they will do it. People with NPD feel animosity towards fairness and individuality. They feel a deep sense of being entitled to be viewed a certain way, which means they will feel personally affronted if someone uses their own perception rather than acquiescing to the narcissists perspective. This creates some kind of automatic enmity, where the narcissist constantly crosses the boundaries of others. They really feel entitled to be seen as better than and excused from the golden rule.

They may never tell an outright lie, or break the law. But they warp the spirit of the law, so that it serves their need to be seen as better than and elevated above others. Even when they attempt to follow rules, they do so from the perspective that some people must lose, so that they can win. They make sure that others lose, somehow, so that they “win”.

They will warp the perception of the people nearest to them so that those people will also feel the world is divided into losers and winners, or the divine vs low-lives, etc. When they operate within any system, they strive to overcome the golden rule, and to make sure that they are in…