The Scapegoat and the Golden Child: A Narcissistic Mother’s Tactics

Because the scapegoat is watching.

(alternately, people are watching)

The narcissist doesn’t “parent” to improve the wellbeing of their child. They don’t have normal parenting instincts. Instead, they have a need to be seen or perceived in a certain way. They have a need to be in power, to be validated, and to see and keep others down.

When the narcissistic mother “parents” the golden child, look at what she’s really doing. Then think about what she does behind the scenes, think and look at the implication of her brand of parenting.

What you’ll find is that even her “stellar” parenting of the “deserving” child creates wounds. It lowers everyone beneath her, creates dependance, validates her false persona while driving a wedge between people. It hides the truth.

Narcissists must hide the truth. The truth creates an even playing field. It gives others the opportunity to act in their own best interests, it creates a stable foundation so that others can be self-determined and healthy.

The truth that she’s hiding is that she doesn’t really love anyone, she enjoys their subjugation, destruction, and pain. The golden child is elevated in order to create a wound in himself and the other children. Elevating the…