The Three Stages of Toxic Relationships with Narcissists

I suspect all relationships with narcissists get experienced the same way by the victim.

1. It starts with positiveness, hopes and dreams
2. The middle bit is always either anger or fear
3. The end bit is always sadness

I believe these three points, especially points 2 and 3, are characteristic signatures of relationships with narcissists and other toxic personality types.

So if you are not an inherently anger prone individual, and you become transformed into one, only in the presence of this person, suspect that you are in a relationship with a narcissist. This is equally true for family relationships, friendships, workplace relationships, pen pals, etc. This may be your signal to re-evaluate everything early.

All narcissists seem to be highly irritating people, because of their compulsive need to anti-harmonize and to ruin. Having someone anti-harmonize you (it goes way beyond invalidation because it includes all sorts of micro-abuses), and covertly ruin you every day will use up the lifetime bank of tolerance you are born with.

It’s only a matter of time before you get transformed into a rage monster in the presence of a person who plays the ‘poke the bunny’ game every day or week, and thinks your hurt…