The Vicious Cycle: How Narcissists Keep You Trapped

They broke up with you when they began devaluing you and then discarded you.

You’re letting them use you in some capacity, such as control, sex, credit, money, shelter, home cooked meals, forgiveness, your good nature, transportation, commitment, your vulnerabilities that they feed off, and this is why they won’t leave.

They’re still around because there is a possibility that they may have nowhere else to go. They are very opportunistic, and they’re taking the opportunity to continue to use, mislead, and manipulate you.

They won’t break up or leave, because you still serve a purpose. They never do anything that they can’t benefit from.

You’re useful to them so they have no intentions on moving on, or out. Which doesn’t mean that they are loyal to you, because they’re still hanging around. Everything that they do is governed by their selfish personality disorder.

They need a constant flow of control, attention, and obedience from someone, and they had it with you for 5 years. So, they could be holding on to you until they can find another victim or when all resources run out.

When they know they cannot obtain supply from someone else they tend to stick around until better narcissistic supply becomes available.