Truth vs. Assumption: Moving On from a Narcissist

The victim prior to you may have felt the same way about you. Looks can be very deceiving, and assuming can place you on the pathway to nowhere. It’s so easy to think that we know what’s going on in someone else’s head, and someone else’s life. You don’t really know; you may be making a guess based on your imagination, past experiences, or distorted thinking. Do you base this decision on observable evidence or factual knowledge; or are you just making the decision and believe it, as if it is factual?

The problem with making these types of assumptions is that more often than we want to believe that it is true, but quite often we are wrong. As I stated the victim prior to you may have assumed the very thing that you’re assuming about the narcissist or your abuser when you were in the idealization phase. They normally switch up their tactic-game with each new victim that they meet, which to you could seem as if they’re treating them better. But ask yourself the question how were you treated? That should challenge your initial question.

If you want to move on effectively, it is very important to stay in the moment, and focus on yourself instead of your abuser. A lot of damage can be done by confusing assumptions with the truth. It will also keep you stuck, trauma bonded, and confuse psychological mechanisms with reality. Narcissists are…