Understanding Cognitive Dissonance with Narcissists

Cognitive dissonance is the consequence of a dictionary search.

a noun

PSYCHOLOGY (Psychology)

cognitive dissonance is a notation.

1. The condition of having ideas, beliefs, or attitudes that are contradictory with one another, particularly in relation to changes in behavior and attitudes.

When it comes to narcissists in particular, cognitive dissonance is what you experience when you anticipate a narcissist to be nice, decent, and humane, but instead you receive the antithesis of what you expect from them.

One half of everything that a narcissist does is done with the intention of causing cognitive dissonance. Narcissists are aware that being confronted with uncertainty is painful, and they exploit this knowledge purposefully.

They will con you into engaging them in order to humiliate you.

The major method of deceiving you is to put on a mask of kindness, decency, and humanity throughout the process.

One of the most effective ways to bring you down is to provide you with the reverse of what they have made you anticipate from them, which is to say, the antithesis of kindness, decency…