Why Boundaries Matter in Treating Borderline Personality Disorder

You can try a breathing techniques and any self soothing exercises you learned. I’m going to be honest that ALL BORDERLINES in treatment feel unheard. Pwbpd make some of the worst patients in recovery because they internalize everything, they are extremely narcissistic, and they always make it about them, their feelings, their experience. It’s damn near impossible to get them to simply acknowledge that they might be wrong and to follow advice that might seem new and scary. Imagine someone who knows nothing about cars and who takes their car to a mechanic. The mechanic tells them what’s wrong and how it can be fixed. The person ignores everything the mechanic said and then starts telling them how to fix things. That’s what it’s like trying to treat pwbpd.

I would encourage anyone in recovery to stop thinking that it’s the therapists fault (you aren’t being victimized). Try to realize that you are in treatment because you are extremely mentally ill. That perhaps the therapist is going above and beyond and you simply are being demanding and needy. Having unfair and unrealistic expectations goes hand in hand with untreated borderlines.

I’m a lot nicer when I say these things in person, but those are my boundaries. I think about 90 percent of my bpd peoples outright ignore my boundaries from day one or simply…