Why Codependents Struggle to Leave Toxic Relationship

No, but sometimes they will marry other borderlines or people on the spectrum. Pwbpd CHASE after two types of people: the narcissist and/ or the codependent. They will almost always vacillate between the two but codependents are their bread and butter. They only target narcissists because there is no real intimacy which is something pwbpd can’t process. They LOVE LOVE LOVE codependents because there’s a similar wound and a similar need to be loved that’s shared by the codependent.

Codependency DOES NOT MEAN weak, needy, can’t be alone, depend on another person or the half a dozen other WRONG definitions some of you have created. Codependency is a relationship dynamic in which one person (the codependent) is forced to tolerate the slack, dysfunction, and/ or abuse of the other partner to keep the relationship alive. YOU CANNOT date an untreated borderline and not constantly be forced to deal with those things. Allowing someone to walk all over healthy boundaries, to continue to forgive/ minimize/ overlook toxic behaviors, to become enmeshed almost immediately are all key features of codependency.

I’m not sure what some codependents are so sick and in so much denial/ cognitive dissonance that they can’t see what’s happening. I’ll literally get these multi paragraph long winded manifestos over the horrific abuse that a codependent…