Why Narcissists Rage When Treated Normally

They think as highly as possible about themselves.

That’s where they start, and who they are. It cannot be diminished by anything in the outside world.

They subscribe to hierarchical thinking, with them at the top of the hierarchy. If they aren’t the wonderful thing they become aware of, they will soon take on those attributes, or destroy that wonderful thing. They covet all that is great and admirable. They don’t believe they need to earn anything, instead, they deserve to be the recipient of all of anything good.

I used to believe they had some core insecurity, something deep within, whispering to them that they are nothing. But I couldn’t sustain that thought, why don’t they shrink when shamed? Why don’t they judge themselves and censure themselves? Why don’t they withdraw from society? Most people who are ashamed withdraw, allow others to harm them. Shame erodes boundaries. If they feel guilty, they will try to do something to relieve their guilt. So why does the narcissists’ pain allow them to take over, to harm others? Why don’t narcissists try to do better? Why can’t they feel guilty? Why aren’t they responsible? Because they’re entitled. Why does their alleged shame cause rage? Anger indicates violated boundaries. It indicates they feel they have something they need to protect, something infringing upon them…