Why Revenge Won’t Heal: Focus on Yourself Instead

Revenge is the act of returning an action for action. When we seek vengeance what we look for is to make the wrong that has been done to us right, but most times that doesn’t rectify the circumstances or person. When we seek revenge, we feel entitled to take justice in our hands. As stated most times it doesn’t change the person or situation, it may only give you temporary gratification or pleasure. Revenge may make you feel better for a moment, but it may not change anything. It can give you the same validation that they want and need from you. Your success won’t change the narcissist. What you do for yourself should be for you, and if you do something to get the narcissist to notice you then that clearly explains that you’re still under their control. Why would you care if they even notice or care?

• You still care about how the narcissist, or your abuser feel about you.
• You still want to feel the need to give the narcissist or your abuser your power, attention, and energy.
• You still care about what they think, and how they feel.
• You still care if they would notice you and give you the attention to validate your feelings.

Why would you care if they notice your achievement of success as a form of revenge? What you do to elevate yourself should be from within…